“You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” –Albert Einstein
Einstein is right, you can’t blame the gravity for that kind of falling, falling in love. I want to write something about love, not in expert way because I am not love expert. And it is just something from my perspective. And this kind of love I wanna talk about is love like in relationship, not like love about human race-humanity-kind-of-stuff. Because for me that’s different thing. Okay.
First, there are a lot of saying about love, about what is love, how is love and stuff. And everyone seems like wanna have part of that, from philosophers, scientist, poet, and me. Haha. First of all I will write some beautiful words about “what is love” by some authors.
“It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them.” –Agatha Christie-
“What is love but acceptance of the other, whatever he is.” –Anais Nin-
“There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.” –C.S. Lewis-
There are a lot of more of the definition of love, but I thought that’s enough. Like Agatha Christie said sometimes we don’t know what we feel when we are in love. But when we see people we love and he is with us, did something funny, ridiculous, weird, we just smile and realize, “God, I love him.” Because love is not about loving the good side, but the bad side too. When we still love someone because of his good side, for me it means adoration not love. That’s like Anais nin said, “Acceptance of the other, whatever he is.”
Yeah, all of that sounds right about love. But for me, love is more than that. And I agree with C.S. Lewis that love is no safe investment. To falling in love is not just for love someone and be happy. But there is the “falling” part too like compromise, hope, that lead to disappointment, waiting, and broken heart. And when we afraid of being in love, of being broken heart, we should not fall in love at all. We should avoid to being in love, just focus to ourself not others, became a selfish, and maybe avoid to interact with human/animals. Because interaction is the beginning level before we are in love. Not just with human, but with animals too. (I miss my cat).
How people define what is love, depends by their experience of love, their environment, and their own self. So there are a lot of bad thoughts about love too.
“Love is a lie. It is a trick played by the cruel on the foolish and the weak. Cast it from your mind. Never let it render you frail of mind or will.” –Freya, The Huntsman Winter War-
“Love is a dangerous disadvantage.” –Sherlock Holmes, The Scandal in Belgravia-
I know they both are characters from movie, but why not? Their opinion (line) about love is right too for some conditions. Freya said that because she thought her man lie to her, and kill their baby to get away from the problem they have (if you wanna know the rest about that story, watch the movie -,-). That’s why she think in bitterness about love.
And for Sherlock Holmes, he is the most rational man in the world. So it’s normal for someone who always use his brain and put aside his feeling and heart, to think like that about love. But what Sherlock said is right, love is dangerous disadvantage. I am on his side about this. Because when we are in love we will try to do anything to impress someone we love (don’t lie to yourself with saying no!). That’s how we become stupid and misjudge to everything in front of us. Not everything, some (I tend to be dramatic). I have wrote this few months ago, this (Fall in Love).
But if someone choose not to fall in love like Sherlock, it doesn’t mean they can’t feel happy. Love is one of things that can make us happy, and there are a lot of other things that can make us happy too. It depends how we manage ourselves to become happy. Because not everyone who is in love they are happy.
And like I said in the beginning, what I write is about love relationship. Not everyone who is in a love relationship feels happy. But afteral love is beautiful thing if we feel it right. Love is way better to give to someone who really need to be loved, and that’s not just for love relationship but to ourselves. Because I think that’s just a waste when we love someone so much but we forget how to love ourselves right. So, good luck!